KRISTIN NEMZER'S BLOG

Avoid Getting Too Friendly with FearMany of the clients I have worked with over the years have been in very close relationships with fear. This becomes apparent as I talk to them about what is going on in their lives. They might tell me that...

The Brutal Consequences of Low Self EsteemOne of the issues that I encounter a lot in my work as a therapist is the issue of “low self esteem.” This is a topic that is talked about a lot in our culture. As the mother of small children I have...

Death as a TeacherA few years ago my older son asked me a stunningly tough question for a 5 year old. He said, “Mom, if you could get rid of death so that nobody had to die, would you?” I thought about it for a long time and answered, “No.”...

Ask for What You NeedBetty is sick and tired of having to ask Bill to do the dishes. “After all these years he should just do the dishes without being asked! I didn’t eat alone! I think he thinks I’m the maid.” Mark says that Cathy never...

Love or FearI am blessed to have a busy calendar these days that is full of rewarding work, activities, and people. In the midst of a busy life I find that I make thousands of decisions every day...some small and some large...but they all...

AcceptanceI have been working as a therapist with couples for over 13 years. I have always seen clients who are stressed in their relationships but I feel that the level of stress in these times is higher than I have ever seen before. It seems...

Therapy and BuddhismMy office and my home are decorated with pictures and statues of the Buddha. I'm often asked why I surround myself with these images. I am a student of Buddhism and I have benefited greatly from many of the Buddha's...

How Ratios Can Help Your RelationshipA ratio is defined as a proportion: the relation between things with respect to their comparative quantity, magnitude, or degree. According to multiple studies the ratio that you need in order to have a...

Anxiety is a Symptom: NOT the ProblemI see many clients who are experiencing anxiety and they want it to stop. Many of them come to my therapy office due to physical symptoms such as panic attacks, high blood pressure, or a feeling of being on...

The Complexities of Body ImageI hear many different relationships that people have with their bodies, their nourishment, and their lifestyles. When one of these relationships is out of balance it often causes great suffering. I have worked with...